Amiya and Akiya

Having a baby at 16 years old is congratulated. Having a baby in general without any wedlock is more encouraged than getting married. Now there might be certain circumstances that were in place at the time and having a baby was inevitable. But the straight fact is, baby mama culture has runied our genreation.

Just to indicate we are not bashing anyone who is; we just want to make sure everyone is fully informed with all the responsibilities it takes to raise a child. Our generation makes it seem like raising a child is the easiest thing you can do when in reality they are wrong.

Instead of the single mothers showing their struggle and hardship on social media. They make it a lifestyle that is like a fairytale; in some truth, there might actually be women who want to be mothers. But the majority of these single mothers on these social media platforms display it as an easy thing that never takes.

We are talking about posts like these…

When we say ruined, we simply mean that the true reality of what it takes to raise a fully healthy and stable child is harder than what everyone makes it seem. When you see a teenager giving birth, it makes you question what it is going to take for that teen to raise that child.

Yes, this topic of childbirth is a celebration. But when your trying to become pregnant to be apart of a trend that is misleding. That is where the confusion starts.

This includes older women as well. We can all agree that raising a child is a difficult challenge on it’s own. We want to show the truth behind the baby mama lifestyle. And shine a light on how it’s more of a struggle than the majority of the people on social media make it seem.

The basics for a child

When you have kids, you will need the basics.

This doesn’t seem to bad, right? But the thing is, these essentials aren’t all it takes to continue to grow this baby.

You will have to continue to purchase these products, which can most definitely get more experiences as time goes by.

You will have to take 100% responsibility for this living being. You do have the occasional option of getting a babysitter, but just think about all the possible things that could go wrong in a situation like that. You can’t trust everyone with your baby these days; some will take advantage of your baby. How could you be 100% sure they wouldn’t?

Taking care of the baby

Your whole life would revolve around this child and you wouldn’t be able to give this baby back to it’s parents because you will be that parent. When the baby wakes up at 3am in the morning crying, who is going to rock that baby back to sleep?

When a friend wants to go out to a party and they invite you. You really want to go but you have to watch your baby. Now there also can be some circumstances where your family can take care of your baby when you want to go out. But what if you always want to go out and your family is tired?

The good things

This post wasn’t meant to be super negative; it was made to be informative. Even though a baby takes a lot of work, it can be rewarding in the end. A mother-kid bond can be one of the strongest bonds that can be humanly formed. This can be done if the mother is consistently making an effort to connect and be there for her child. This journey of pregnancy isn’t easy and watching social media makes that truth seem false.

So when you see another post about how great the “baby mama” lifestyle is, take a moment to think. How is she really providing for that child? Can she afford that child? How many sleepless nights is she having? How many fun events is she missing out on to take care of her baby? How is she feeling emotionally about this child?

Plan

If you do happen to have a baby, the best thing you can do for you and your child is plan. You have to have a plan to figure out how you are going to raise this child in the best conditions you possibly can. You need to take full responsibility for this child and not look for someone else to raise the child you created.